[Self-Care Saturday] Taking the Lead from For Colored Girls Who Lead…

I have a good friend who’s started an organization, a movement, called For Colored Girls Who Lead. This woman is a dynamic, nurturing, and genuinely caring individual. Her leadership is valuable and much needed in the black community and I am proud to support her in her efforts to continue to build up, bolster up, encourage and motivate black women. Especially in today’s world…

Each Friday on Facebook, C.w. creates a “Self-Care Friday” post. Her post from yesterday (11.03.17) is here:

This morning, I got up early while the house was still quiet. I did the normal morning routine — shower, brush teeth, floss… But then I took the time to do things I rush through normally. I got my gelled body oil and sat on the end of the bed. I moisturized my body from head-to-toe slowly and lovingly. I took time to notice the feel of my skin, of the gelled oil on my skin, of the loving way I was applying the product. I took time to notice the bumps and blemishes, to seek out signs of aging (I am proudly 51 years old!). I took time for Self…

Rather than hop in the shower and out, slather lotion on frantically and rush to get dressed and get out the door, this morning I turned my morning hygiene into a conscious focus on the Present. On Be-ing. On living in that one moment without thought or worry or concern about any other thing. Just Me. I channeled my energy into loving on me and thinking of me and only me.

It’s not selfish. It’s Self-Care.

And it’s something that we should practice daily. Not once a week. Not when we “can fit it in.” Not when we have the money to get our hair or nails or feet done. But Every. Single. Day. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone and although this is something I’ve always known, the reality of it did not hit me until September 3, 2017, when my sister died at the age of 53. Two years older than me…

Since that time, I have been re-evaluating my life. The things I’ve focused on and stressed over. Decisions I have made that changed the fiber of my Be-ing. This morning, prior to my Self-Care Ritual, I wrote in my journal. You know — “Morning Pages” LOL — except my morning pages are written any time of the day when I feel like writing. This morning it was at 6 a.m. as I sat wide awake watching my husband sleep peacefully. Yesterday, I added a page that night to what I had written earlier that day. Some revelations came to me during my writing session along with some resolutions.

The first being that it’s time to practice what I preach…

I call my Self the “Self-Love Catalyst”, working with women for over 9 years on healing from simply living the life of a woman to healing from whatever other BS they may have encountered or endured in their lifetime. However, I find that I don’t always wholly practice what I preach. It’s not because I don’t believe in it — I teach what I used to heal my Self from acts of infidelity and other BS I have experienced. It’s simply because of the “D” word: Depression.

Yep, I said it. I am depressed. Have been for many years. Initially didn’t realize it, but more and more it dawned on me. I didn’t realize the depression because I was “happy.” No one is ever totally happy — there are always dark clouds in any one’s sky. It’s just a matter of how those dark clouds are allowed to affect you. At some point in my life, the dark clouds took over even though I kept a cheery exterior…

And now it’s time to clear the air…

So I have been writing in my journal. Daily. And I am about to start a 100 Days of heART Cards project (FREE!) here on my website (you have to Register to be a member, which is also free!). That will ensure that I do some art, daily, no matter how small or quick and dirty. And I plan to take more ritual showers like I did this morning.

All-in-all it’s time to practice extreme self-care. And one of the ways that I will ensure I do that for my Self, is to come here every Saturday and write a Saturday Self-Care post detailing what I did that day for self-care. I invite you to join me and amp up your self-care too. Come here each Saturday and post in the Comments what you did for your Self that day in the form of extreme self-care. Maybe some of the things you do will inspire me and others to add to our self-care rituals.

Tell me: What did you do today in the form of self-care?

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